Children are experts at excuses.
Where, oh where do they get them from, they’re all brilliant.
I am constantly amazed at how quickly my grandchildren can sidestep an issue with the perfect off the cuff excuse. No thought, no embarrassment.
I’m sure you have your own family examples of great excuses to rival the best I can offer.
With children we recognise their explanation as what it is – an excuse and smile knowingly.
However, as we mature we become much more sophisticated in our thinking. We avoid giving a lame excuse when we have not done something we had promised to do and instead offer a well thought through, justified reason.
However, the end result is still the same. A promise has been broken but now it is hidden behind a reason smoke screen.
As an adult we rationalise excuses to produce reasons.
But beware the insidious nature of reasons.
Why do we hide behind reasons?
They make us feel better in the short term.
Actually, by justifying with a reason, we are letting ourselves off the hook by lying to ourselves!
The danger is that our unconscious mind will believe everything we tell it. Wrap the self-lie up in a reason and it will be happy. These reasons become the basis of an uncomfortable comfort zone.
Be careful what you tell yourself.
Stop lying to yourself, expose the reason for what it is – an excuse and then decide whether the resulting behaviour is acceptable.
Start with yourself, catch those self-lies before they become the comfortable norm of no accountability.
Guess what, if you are not prepared to hold yourself accountable then it soon becomes impossible to hold others in your team accountable.